Writing Relationships

Today I’m going to talk about writing relationships as a fantasy/romance author. I’ll also briefly mention writing Christianity with fantasy as well, but there’s a really good post on Kingdom Pen if you want to read more.

The first thing I’m going to talk about is how I personally write romantic relationships, having never been in one myself. A lot of what I do know comes from extensive reading on the subject and being an avid romance reader gives me some insight into how authors choose to portray things.

One of the biggest things for me was to base relationships in my books off people I knew in real life. It allowed me to play with the chemistry of characters and gave me a starting point. The first real romance I ever wrote was called Celine, and is still hanging around on my blog somewhere. I’ve improved a lot since then, but it was a great starting point!

I found that practice really did make perfect for me. At this point in my life I’ve still never been in a serious relationship, but I’ve written, read, and observed so many that I’ve learned a lot.

Some authors like to use MBTI or other personality types to figure out how their characters will interact with each other, and it is a great starting point. I always start with MBTI and see what the types are most likely to agree v. disagree on. I find this is a really good resource too if you’re stuck, especially if you put out a question asking people of the same type to help!

It’s also a good idea to write down your character’s values in life. Often for me I write down what their relationship with Christ is like and how that factors into the romance bit. This is a bit trickier to figure out in the fantasy setting, but still very important.

If you have any questions, don’t be afraid to ask me in the comments! I’d love to help you.


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